Anger is pretty common emotion. Emotion means energy in motion. However, anger is increasingly recognized as an important emotional problem. Anger can be bad for your relationships, your health and your self esteem.
In the bad old days of psychological treatment for anger, people were encouraged simply to get it out, often by beating pillows to vent their fury. The result? Just like anything your practice, these people got better at being angry. The notion that expressing your rage can get it out of your system is a myth. A better solution is to get grips with managing your angry feeling responsibly. And master the skills that can help you to feel less angry, less often.
Through therapy session you will learn to:-
- Discerning the difference between healthy and unhealthy anger.
Healthy anger: is helpful annoyance and irritation. This is the kind of anger that urge you to assert your rights when it is important that you do so, or protects yourself when you are in danger.
Unhealthy anger: is unhelpful rage and hate, this type of anger cause you to behave aggressively and violently in response even to mild or unimportant triggers. It also means that you bottle things up and vent your anger indirectly (passive aggression) or take it out on innocent people. Unhealthy anger will cause fractures in your personal relationships, create trouble in your workplace, or land you in prison. Beside feeling physically and emotional uncomfortable and leading to feel of guilt.
Anger can be triggered by a set of circumstances or situations such as breaking one of your personal rules, threatening your self-esteem by word or deed, frustration when someone or something is getting in the way of you reaching a goal.
The triggers for healthy and unhealthy anger are the same, but he behavioral responses produced are different. Both anger types are associated with different ways of thinking and attention focus.
Key traits of unhealthy anger:
Thinking patterns of unhealthy anger includes:
- Making rigid demands and rules about the way people must or must not behave.
- Insisting that other people must not insult or ridicule you.
- Demanding that other people or condition should not get in the way of you getting what you want.
- Overestimating the degree to which people deliberately act in undesirable way toward you.
- Assuming automatically that you are always right and others are wrong.
- Refusing to consider other’s point of view.
Behavioral patterns of unhealthy anger includes:-
- Attacking or wanting to attack another person physically or verbally.
- Attacking in an indirect way (passive aggressive) manipulator.
- Taking out the anger on innocent parties such as people, children, animal or object.
- Plotting (making) revenge
- Holding grudge (resentment)
- Turning others against the person who behaved undesirably.
- Looking for evidence that someone has acted with hateful intent.
- Searching for signs of an offence being repeated.
- Being over-vigilant and over-cautious for people breaking your personal rules or acting disrespectfully toward you.
Physical signs of unhealthy anger:
- Fists clenched.
- Muscles tensed at the shoulder, neck.
- Clenched jaw.
- Shaking or trembling.
- Raised heart rate.
- Feeling hot.
By attending therapy sessions you will learn:-
- Adopting attitudes that underpin healthy anger.
- Conveying your annoyance in a healthy way.
- Acting assertively in the workplace.
- Dealing with difficulties in overcoming anger.
- Feeling safe, safe, and relaxed.